Common Questions and What to Expect
What is Counseling?
Counseling is a personal process, focused on what you need, and differs for each individual. As a couple, the focus of counseling is your relationship, and helping you two develop the relationship you both desire. This process looks different for each couple, and is tailored to what you need, where you are, and where you want to be. It involves introspection and reflection, honesty and trust. Most important, it is a process you do not enter into alone. Your counselor should be able to meet you where you are, empathize with each you, and help you figure out what you want and need. Counseling is about inviting someone else into your story, your relationship, your marriage, to help you get to where you want to be.
What is my investment?
Counseling requires time, energy and money. In the beginning, many people will come in once a week, or once every couple of weeks. Consistency creates a great foundation and helps the process develop momentum. Counseling also takes energy. It is not uncommon to feel drained or exhausted after a session together. Counseling also requires a financial investment. Although it might seem significant at the start, you are truly investing in yourself and your relationship. Studies show that healthy relationships end up being more financially sound in the long run, and a little bit now goes a long way in the future.
How long will counseling last?
This depends on what you are coming in for. Together we can draft a plan for treatment so you know where you are going. If you want to come in for a certain number of sessions, I can work with that as well. And of course, you can always stop at anytime.
Is this confidential?
Most definitely. Your privacy is important and protected by law, with the exception of some legal statues (child abuse, harm to self and others). Nothing we discuss is shared with anyone else without your permission. All of your information is stored securely and only released with your consent.
I have never shared our relationship issues with anyone, why would I share them with a total stranger?
I know how hard it is to open up your personal lives to anyone, much less someone you do not even know. At the same time, there is benefit in connecting with someone who can be objective and is somewhat removed from your situation. We all have blind spots, and it can be helpful for a third party to step into those.
Why do I need to see a professional? Why not friends or books?
Community is important, and having that support is invaluable. However, a friend cannot fully understand your issues from a professional standpoint, and may struggle to help you due to their limitations and experience. Books can provide you information you did not know, but they are not tailored to your specific situation. Often times people do not want to burden their friends with their problems, or do not have friends they would trust to really open up to. Everyone has their own opinion and advice, but often times this is not helpful. What you really need is someone who can meet you where you are, speak directly into your situation, and address your specific situation.
We tend to ignore our problems until they get too tough to deal with, and at that point they start costing us in other areas of our lives. When our primary relationship suffers, we tend to struggle in work, in other relationships, and can experience a wide range of negative emotions. We have usually tried everything by this point, and ignoring our issues seems to stop working.
Reaching out for help takes courage and risk. It is not easy to trust another person with the things most important to you. However, you deserve more than what you are experiencing, and you need a life better than what you have. When you are at the end of your rope, have tried everything you can think of but are still stuck, taking the next step to talk to someone else is a great choice and opportunity.
Who do you primarily work with?
I work with individuals, couples, and at times families. Part of my practice is dedicated to couples work and marriage counseling. More information on that can be found below:
What are your hours?
I hold hours during the day Monday through Friday. I hold appointments in the evening on Tuesday and Thursday. I know how difficult it is to manage life and get schedules to line up, so I try to make it as feasible as possible for a people to get the help they need.
What if I need to cancel?
Emergencies happen and life changes. If you need to cancel an appointment, you can call or email me to do so outside of 24 hours. If you need to cancel within 24 hours I charge a late cancellation fee. If you are unable to show up for your appointment and do not let me know, I charge a no-show fee.
How can I pay for sessions?
You can pay with cash, check, or any major credit card. FSA and HSA cards are also accepted.
What are your fees?
The Karibuni Center’s rates are comparable to other therapists in the area with similar training and expertise. Couples Counseling sessions are $135 for a therapeutic hour (50 minutes). I also schedule double appointments (1 hour 40 minutes) or intensives (3 hours or longer).
Do you take insurance?
No, however you can contact your insurance provider and ask them about your out of network benefits and being reimbursed for those. I can provide you with a statement each month to submit to your insurance provider for reimbursement. This is because I believe that therapy is a private and personal matter. The process, goals and length of treatment are highly individualized, and determined by my professional experience and what you communicate you need. Insurance requires that this information is reported to a third party, their company, which now determines aspects of treatment. Additionally, insurance companies rarely cover couples therapy. For more information, please see the Insurance section.